A criminal was brought to the King for Judgment.
The King gave him two options.
It was either he was executed by hanging or he was thrown into a mysterious room and faced whatever he meets inside.
He quickly decided to be executed by hanging.
As he was being led out to be hanged, he asked the King out of curiosity.
What’s behind the door?
The King laughed and told him.
I always tell everyone to make this choice and nearly everyone chooses Hanging.
Well, you can tell me what’s inside the room, He said.
Your secret is safe with me as I am about to be hanged.
The King replied, behind the door of that room is Freedom.
But most people are always afraid of the unknown that they chose to be hanged instead.
Now reading this story, you may be telling yourself that you would have chosen the room, but we both know that you would have most likely made the same choice as the criminal.
This same thing applies in life, thankfully we are not criminals so we can be freer to make decisions without fear of death.
Two things determine how far you go in life.
- Your ability to conquer fear
- Your ability to conquer Ego
My focus for this article is fear and I hope that I would get to write on Ego later on.
Achieving success in any area of life involves learning and application.
If you give room to fear or ego, you will never be able to apply whatever you learn and this will directly affect the results that you would get.
It does not matter how talented your teachers or mentors are or how sophisticated your learning materials and gadgets are.
The foundational determinant of success for every single human being on Earth is tied to an ability to conquer fear and ego.
Like I said earlier, I am talking about just fear today.
So let’s dive into it.
When I write articles, there is one thing that I aim for.
Not just for your reading, but for myself also.
The quality of this article is directly tied to how deep I understand what I am writing about.
If not, I will just highlight issues, fail to address them properly, and feel good that I have written something.
So I will not just unpack fear here, I would come from what I call the solution angle.
I am sure that you are well acquainted with fear.
Even as you read this article, you are kind of afraid that you would see something that would burst your bubble.
You have probably given yourself a perfect excuse for why you can’t do a particular thing, prepare to get your excuse squashed.
The Purpose of Time
You are probably very good at setting new year resolutions, but not that good at keeping them.
However, I am not here to talk against New Year’s resolutions but give a different perspective on the underlying act.
Which is setting new goals.
There is one important thing that you need to understand.
January 1st does not have a monopoly on new beginnings.
You don’t just measure time in years, there are also months, weeks, days, hours and minutes.
One important thing that you need to learn is to be consistent with action as you are with inaction.
Let me give an example.
You tell yourself, this year I will read more books.
So you set a goal of reading one book a week.
Week one, you read a book. Same as the second and third week.
Then by the fourth week of January, something happens and you fail to read a book.
What you do in the fifth week would go a long way in determining how your year goes.
Most people go into mourning and lament how they have failed and never go back to reading one book a week.
But you need to do the opposite.
You need to pick up a book in the fifth week and continue like you never stopped.
When it comes to being consistent with your goals, it is not strange to fail once.
The main problem starts when you miss out two times in a row.
So, let’s say you have a goal to write every day and you miss writing on one particular day.
Make sure that you write the very next day.
Don’t miss two days in a row.
You won’t perfect this overnight, but the more you act on this, the more you become more consistent with time.
I can give countless examples of how this has helped me personally.
Work on becoming consistent with action instead of inaction.
Don’t wait for a new day, week, month or year before getting back into action.
The moment you realize that you are slacking, pick up the pace again and start pushing.
Never take a day for granted.
A new day, week, month or year does not reset your mind or the world.
What determines the change that you see is what you do now.
You also need to get something.
Every year, month, week or day that passes brings closure to both failure and success.
So you achieved amazing things last week. So What
So you wasted last week doing nothing. That’s in the past.
Whether last week was a success or a failure for you, you are in a new week.
Make sure that you make it count.
The greatest enemy of your next success is wrapping yourself so much in your previous success.
Don’t be a one-hit-wonder.
The Genesis (Abi Exodus)
There is one saying by Myles Monroe that I love the most.
Success is the Potential Destiny of all Created things.
And this is one of the truest statements that I have come across.
Let’s slip back into the Human Realm and review how we make plans for things as Humans.
Before we build something, there are certain processes that we go through.
The Architect does some drawings before a House is built.
The Fashion designer does some sketches on paper before creating a dress.
The Business Man creates a business plan on paper before he starts building a business.
Every single one of these things and anything else that you can think of was finished on paper first before it was started.
Everything that we do as Humans mirrors the actions of God.
That alone should tell you that your life has been finished on paper by God before You started living it (Jeremiah 1:5)
You were born victorious. You just need to realize it.
What is Success?
While we are on this topic of building.
I must help you gain clarity on what success truly is.
Success is not about outclassing or overtaking others.
Success is tied to discovering what you are meant to build and achieving it before you die.
So you are not in a race with anybody but yourself.
Your goal should be to become better today than you were yesterday.
You can always find someone that you are better than.
So if you use people as your benchmark it is easier for you to trick yourself into thinking that you are getting better.
Comparing yourself with others also makes you run another person’s race.
The race is not for the swift or the battle for the strong.
There is something that I talk about whenever I teach about success.
And that’s Identity/ Self Awareness.
My definition for both is knowing the difference between who you are and who you wish you were.
We all have pictures in our heads of who we wish we are like or where we wish we were.
And these pictures are fed into our minds by watching others live their life.
Social media has given us access to the way others live their life and it is easy to see those who have seemingly perfect lives.
But first of all, you need to understand that everyone put their best foot forward online.
When you take pictures, you do your best to pick the best one to post and ignore the ones that don’t look cool to you.
Same with every other person, they focus on posting the best parts of their lives.
So you sit there and compare and feel that your life is in total shambles.
You need to focus on who you are and what you carry.
At the end of your life, your success is not measured by how much money you have made.
It would be measured by how far you went to achieving your assignment here on Earth.
Like Gary Vee always says:
” It is not about how much you have in your Bank account, it is about how many people turned up for your Funeral”
Some people die today and only their families mourn them.
Some people die and the whole world stands still.
Kobe Bryant, Chadwick Boseman and so on.
These people died relatively early, but the time they spent here when compared to the average Human Lifespan touched millions of people.
No one was talking about their Money when they died.
The focus was on their impact.
RoadBlocks To Avoid
Some roadblocks would stump your ability to achieve your vision.
And some of these things are not necessarily bad, but when compared against your vision they can cause problems.
Let me use smoking as an example.
When you tell some people not to smoke cigarettes, they say things like,
It is not illegal.
Show me a place in the Bible that talks against it.
But there is no need for all that proof.
Right there on the cigarette pack, there is a message from the Ministry of Health that says “Smokers and liable to die Young”.
So do you want to live long and achieve purpose
Or do you want to spend the latter part of your life battling Lung Cancer and other smoking-related ailments?
So do a review of your life and check things that would take away from your ability to work hard on your vision.
It can be social media (there are periods where I uninstall Twitter and Instagram from my phones)
It can be that relationship that always keeps you on the wrong side.
No matter what it is, work on separating yourself from it so that you can move ahead.
The central theme of this article is fear.
Everything that I have talked about addresses fear from a certain angle.
If you don’t understand the purpose of time, fear would marry that and keep you stagnant.
You will always think you need to get to a certain point in time before you can try building again, not knowing that what you do now is what matters the most.
If you don’t understand that you have been designed to succeed, fear will cripple you.
Same as if you don’t understand what true success is.
You would always ignore the unique gifts that you have been given and try to run the race of others.
I believe that this article has helped you address fear from so many angles.
You are welcome to ask any questions that you may have in the comments below, I always reply to all comments.
Also, I am running a program called Chasing Jeff Bezos where I give members much closer Mentorship on what it takes to build a successful brand.
If you would love to join my Chasing Jeff Bezos Inner Circle, read about it with the link below.
I have published the article on Ego
You can read it here: Three Ways You are Suffering From Ego
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